Friends look at me like I'm nuts.
"What did you just say, girl? Did I hear you just say something is better than sex?"
"Oh, you poor thing! Why didn't you tell me you were this hard up? I have a cousin-"
Believe me, I'm not hard up. I just would rather do a few things than have sex- sometimes. Sure, sex is great. I mean, we read and write about that more than anything. We all know sex sells and it feels wonderful. Seems to me it's a bit over rated and other sweet things get pushed to the side with little or no recognition. Sometimes, it is refreshing to read a novel or watch a movie with little or no sex. Sometimes, a date goes better without sex. If a lover came up to me right now, and offered me a strawberry parfait or some loving, I'd take the parfait because I don't get a strawberry parfait that often. I can get my lover to lay it on me any ole time.Well, that's not really true. If the lover was Vin Diesel I'd take him of course because I don't believe he wait around for me to let him lay it on me at my convenience.
What's better than a strawberry parfait? Hmm, that's an easy one! A nice long nap in the middle of the afternoon! Heaven. Or holding a sweet little baby while she sleeps. Oh, and a foot massage!
Could I give up sex altogether? Yes! Just tell me I don't have to get in traffic to go to work ever again and magically my every bill is paid. Perfect trade, right there.
I know people will argue and tell me I just haven't had the right kind of sex. Please. I love sex. I also love the other blessings of life to be enjoyed with or without another person. I guess, the same can be said about sex now that I think about it. But anyway, my point is, sex isn't the ultimate pleasure in this world.
Years ago, on Phil Donahue or Opra( I can't remember which, I just know I was in college) A young man was on the panel, he claims he was born without reproductive organs and as a result he had no sexual desires and he was happy. Well, so many of the audience just couldn't believe him. Some got angry and accused him of lying. Though, I was young and virginal, I had normal desires but I was waiting for marriage and if I had to I was willing to remain chaste all my life if my prince never came and stood before me. As I said I was young then. I later learned some sense. However, it wasn't hard for me to believe the young man was happy being a non sexual person. And I still can. I mean, it makes sense after all. No sexy parts, no sexy desires.
I'm not knocking how anyone feels about sex. If it's number one to you, cool baby. Just don't look at me like I'm nuts if I'd sometimes rather take a walk down to the river at night with a date and watch the fireworks than spend all day in bed, or if I write something sweet and romantic, once in a while, instead of hot and steamy. For me, romance works with or without sex in real life as well as in novels.
An independent novelist who lives and writes in her southeast Missouri hometown. She dabbles in historical westerns, paranormal, and adult contemporary love stories.